Wednesday, September 18, 2013

Strengths Finder 2.0

So as you gals may know I'm a reader. I began reading the New York Times Best Seller "Strengths Finder 2.0" by Tom Rath. This book is backed by more than 50 Years of studying people & their strengths. Here are a few interesting quotes: 'what's more, we had discovered that people have several times more potential for growth when they invest energy in developing their strengths instead of correcting their deficiencies.' I too have thought this from reading other books and also feel this also pertains to our looks, we All have insecurities but why bother concentrating on those when we can concentrate instead of what we do love about ourselves, which will always make us feel way better and whats more important than that? 

Now when it comes to career & personality 'our studies indicate that people who do have the opportunity to focus on their strengths every day are six times as likely to be engaged in their jobs and more than three times as likely to report having an excellent quality of life in general.' Many times people are stuck in jobs or careers where they are not taking advantage of their biggest strengths and what a waste that must be so I decided to invest $10 into taking their online test at www.strengthsfinder.com. Choose the Strengths Finder Test 2.0, it really is a great investment. My top 5 strengths turned out to be Maximizer, Positivity, Focus, Futuristic and activator - which couldn't describe me any better! I love it because it provides you with your top strengths, explanations of these as well as an action plan on how to incorporate them into your life & career. FYI I'm not getting paid for giving this recommendation. I always blog about things that I feel have helped better my life & share that info with you Bellas. Hope you find your biggest strengths & use them to your full potential. Xoxo


So test yourself. 

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Exactly


And this goes for all relationships you allow to develop. Whether its with a guy or with new friends, if they are not adding value to your life then it's not worth holding onto. 

Friday, September 13, 2013

Love this!

I absolutely love this! One of the main reasons I started this blog was because I would hear and still at times hear my girlfriends complain about their looks. I was very blessed to have amazing parents to always remind me of how beautiful I am and although I know I'm not a model I always try to concentrate on my best assets and strengths as a person. That's what I also encourage all my gfs and girls in general to do, no negative self talk. It serves you no purpose to call yourself 'ugly' because you are not really able to see yourselves the way your loved ones do. I see my friends and I think about how beautiful they are & I make sure to remind them because I love them, don't ever take that away from yourself. Don't be afraid to be your true authentic self and become your own best friend because once you do life really does get easier. Xoxo Bellas 







I'm a feminist, yes I said it

'Currently only 24% of women in the United States say that they consider themselves a feminist. Yet when offered a more specific definition of feminism -'A feminist is someone who believes in social, political, and economic equality of the sexes' - the percentage of women who agree rises to 65%.' -Sheryl Sandberg 

I know the word feminist is usually seen as an overpowered woman but in reality it's more like an empowered woman who would like equality in society and I'm all up for that. Therefore, I'm declaring myself a feminist for life because I'm sure this battle will take some time to conquer.   I would love for my children or at least grandchildren to be able to experience total equality, looking forward to it! 

Tuesday, September 10, 2013

When looking for a life partner

My advice to women is to date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them.... When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated, and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.' -Sheryl Sandberg 
 
Couldn't agree more! For all the career driven women this book is a must read. It has opened up my mind to so many different aspects of today's career woman/wife/mother. We have to find a partner who is going to support us in raising a family as well support us in following our career path. Times are changing and we should make an effort to be a part of this change as it is necessary. There is still so much unfairness going on in our society (like women being paid .77 for every mans dollar) & we have it 'good' compared to so many other countries where women aren't even allowed basic rights. Upon first reading this book I felt so angered but now I just want to be part of that change and I would also like you Bella's to join in. Xoxo

http://youtu.be/18uDutylDa4 Here is Sheryl's Ted Talk 

Sunday, September 8, 2013

Stress can be your friend? Must watch Ted Talk

Check out this amazing TED Talk:

Kelly McGonigal: How to make stress your friend

Found this to be very interesting since like many, I have viewed stress to be a negative thing. Turns out by believing it to be positive you can turn the negative effects of it in your body around. Love Ted talks for this!